A Room With a Southern View

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Do You Need To Be Perfect?

When I was growing up, I wanted to be perfect. My mother was an intolerable woman, (which is a long story for another time,) and my dad was a good man in a bad marriage who dealt with his lot in life by working long hours and volunteering in the community, which kept him away from home as much as possible. As children are hard-wired to do, I believed my mother. I believed it was my fault that my Dad was away from home so much, that he didn’t want to be around me because I was bad. I believed that I was a constant disappointment to my mother because there was something wrong with me. So I always tried to be the best at everything, to prove to my dad that I wasn’t bad, and to show my mother that I was not unlovable.

This mindset – that I had to be perfect to earn love – carried over into my adult life. I was so wrapped up in the endless pursuit of perfection that I even hated myself if I failed. It bothered me for years, and just a little still, that my college GPA was 3.96 and not 4.0.

When I failed at things, and I did as everyone does, it was life-changing for me to realize that my husband still loved me, still supported me, still believed in me. I began to see that most of the time good enough is good enough. Striving for perfection in every little thing you do will wear you down and make you feel inadequate because nobody’s perfect.

Do your best. Love yourself. Accept your limitations. Think hard on which things in your life really truly need to be perfect, and accept a passing grade on the rest. Trust me, you will live a longer, healthier, happier life if you do.

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President Trump

Well, our voting is done and Donald J. Trump was declared the winner, whether you like it or not. If you’ve read any of my writing probably figured out that I am a Constitutional Conservative. So yes, I voted for Trump. In fact, I wanted Trump to run decades ago.

I’ve followed his career and political commentary since I was a Business Major in college. Not to say that I agree with everything he says and does, but I admire his business savvy and agree with most of his politics.

I think he’s smart enough to know that he has a lot to learn about being President of the United States. He seems to be filling his Cabinet with some smart and shrewd folks who are more accustomed to the political arena than he is.

I just want to say that I’m so proud of you voters out there that took the time and effort to seek the truth amidst all the lies and misquotes and half-truths and misleading news stories. I’m afraid the days of unbiased news coverage are long gone. But thank Goodness [or Google] for smartphones. Everyday people now have the power (and yes it is true power) to record and post the raw video of events to the internet.

One such event that really intrigued me was the Democratic National Convention. After Hillary was announced as the party’s nominee a large portion of the attendees walked out, leaving about 60% of the seats empty. There was a small contingent of Hillary supporters (or paid extras) front and center cheering and waving. And that was what America saw on the network news, making it seem like the conventional hall was full. Just more smoke and mirrors. I watched the raw video on Youtube.

So again, thank you to the truth seekers out there, no matter who you voted for. Please continue to educate yourselves. Inform yourselves. Don’t accept the narrative on the network news as truth. Seek and you will find. There are people with boots on the ground out there recording. Raw. Unprofessional. Unedited. That is where you’ll find the truth.

Much of this election was about people. Real people. Working Class people that fuel the great machine that is the USA. People who chose the raw, unedited, sometimes inappropriate comments of a non-politico over the slick fine-tuned scripts of a Washington insider.

Now, some people are angry. There are protesters in the streets raging against the machine. To them I say–

Throw away your bottle, and get some Pull-ups. Either grow up and contribute to a solution, or get out of the way and let the grownups figure it out.

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